What physical attribute are you attracted to first from the opposite sex?

You are the lucky one.

I am, and I don't forget it ; )

Hey, Leticia, you really inspired a lot of comments with this one. Nice work. It's been a lot of fun reading through them all.

And thanks for letting us get a bit risque. Some authors don't care for it and I respect their wishes. It's nice to have a place to play for us naughty people who belong to the NV community.

yeah...what she said!

Yes, Leticia, thanks for letting us have fun!
You are 100% cool! :-)

Eyes can be blind.......both literally and figuratively....

But nice for "soul searching"....

Susi, I agree with all of those. But you are waaaay more perceptive than I if you can take all those in at the first glance.

You must be some kind of pro opposite-sex-watcher.

; )

Ive seen maybe 1 full episode of SiC. As for being a pro? LOL! I wish.......but thank you :)

The eyes and the smile bring ya to the table. The brains and sense of humor keep you there.

Sometimes within 10 minutes of speaking to someone you can get a really good idea of what exactly is behind those eyes & smile and how big their heart is.

Eyes, smile, brains, wicked sense of humor and a big heart.

Good list

Sometimes within 10 minutes of speaking to someone you can get a really good idea of what exactly is behind those eyes & smile and how big their heart is.

And sometimes you can be deceived. I've talked to people who I thought had their @!$%# together. They had a good sense of humor, a good personality and I found myself liking them. But then one day you find, that wasn't them at all. It was all a facade. So you have to stay on guard. Especially when you're dealing with someone in Cyberspace.

And sometimes you can be deceived.

Very true, but probably not in the way you're thinking. Some people would likely spend their entire lives alone if they couldn't convince others that they were perfectly normal.

On the outside I might be the most average person ever (average height, 5'10", brown hair, brown eyes, slender and such) and that might even make some people curious to get to know me better.

I'll do my best to entertain them and maintain the facade that I'm just your normal average guy both inside and out, even though it makes me a damned liar for doing so. After all, would that curiousity about me last if they knew about the decimated rubble of bitter memories in my head? Would it last in the face of the dark monsters of my mind?

I think...not. Some people hide their true nature to be manipulative, it's true. Others hide what's just below the surface because they fear that if anyone sees it and flees, they'll be consumed by it.

After all, would that curiousity about me last if they knew about the decimated rubble of bitter memories in my head? Would it last in the face of the dark monsters of my mind?

I don't know but here's a good Case in point. A lot of people said he was a nice guy and felt they knew him. But they never knew what he was really like. Some had to find out the hard way.

Some people hide their true nature to be manipulative, it's true. Others hide what's just below the surface because they fear that if anyone sees it and flees, they'll be consumed by it.

That's why, on the internet there is nothing wrong with hiding yourself. But, if you meet someone and you decide to take that relationship off line, that's when the real you should come out so that you don't waste the other persons time.

Some of us like to be one way on NV. It's our alter ego. Our playful side. And there's nothing wrong with that. But offline, you should "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." It's called "honesty".

I'm old enough not to care what people think of me. I live by Popeye philosophy. Most people that know me consider me a mischievous, warped sense of humor, evil @!$%#...but those are just my friends.

I'm the evil Uncle sort of guy who buys the drum set for the three year old, buys his wife an iron for Christmas, or gives her a bouquet of dried up dead flowers for her birthday (done all of these).

OldPhart,

I understand the "OldPhart" but the "bsa". That wouldn't be, by any chance a type of motorcycle you own, would it? Just curious.

No, it relates to a youth organization

You old boy scout, you.

Yup, hygiene is a factor. As long as that soap smell ain't LAVA soap or Mr. Bubble, I'm good-to-go. ;-D

NO Lava or Mr. Bubble!! LOL Just plain ol CLEAN. That includes clean clothes. They don't have to be IRONED (I'm not a Nazi LOL) just clean. I should get a sign: *I swoon at cleanliness* Hee. :-)

I agree. I voted chest, but it's more arms and chest. I love a strong upper body. It doesn't have to be a body builder type upper chest, but not scrawny either. I'm 5'2" and my husband's 6'4" with a broad chest and nice sized arms. I relish in feeling totally engulfed when he hugs me. That and he showers frequently (sometimes 2 or 3 times a day), but add that with a little bit of cologne and it makes me swoon every time.

Mr. bubble? ROFLMAO! I don't know why that struck me so funny, but I'm literally laughing out loud.

and hey, I like looking at the young men, but not young enough for Mr. Bubble! lol

I love it when a man smells like soap or sandalwood. It does crazy things to me

I've been known to use soap! ;)

O.K, I thought to long and my post timed out. Now I have to try to use my memory, darn it.

It is nothing specific for me. It's more of something picked up from an overall scan that seems to reveal personality. The way someone carries themself, the smile, the way they interact. And naturally there are the physical attributes that we all have certain parameters on, albiet different for each.

And btw, there's no age limit with Mr. Bubble. ;)

English Leather drives me crazy on any man. Of course he has bathed first. Sorry just a fact of my life.

Eye contact is important, too.

I agree, Sebastian. Intelligence is, to me, sexy. I had a couple of dates with a very good looking, very tall, muscular, martial arts expert because he turned out to be a himbo.

Cute can only go so far...

Sabastian Palpatine, I'm 5'10". Amazon enough???? And YES, I am a female, been one all my life!

I am a female, been one all my life!

lol

I am a female, been one all my life!

That's the best kind!!!!!

NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING is fake about me except for an ince or two of blonde hair that is growing out. That's it. I like the gray that is replacing it.

Not at first, For a short term beauty would be most important. For a long term relationship she would have to be a good compatible person.Ideally she would be a nice person and beautiful.

Thanks for a good article and poll.

dkaz, it was your fifth link

Magoo? You're a Magoo? I'm married to Magoo.

Wait a minute.....You better not be my Magoo. You're not suppose to know I have a computer. I've led you to believe it's a 22"LCD flat screened TV.

Btw the way OldPhart, what are you doing way down here? You should be up there someplace. I had to scroll up to find out what the hell you were referring to. It's not good for my right middle finger. I need that at times.

Senility (or beer) gets me lost a lot of times...sorry (or my glasses fade over).

Hate getting old, but better than the alternative so far.

And I can positively confirm that older guys can take the time to truely appreciate a woman...can't do much else, but we can at least drool and fiddle absently for hours at a time.

Speaking of fiddle I had a pancake on the oven...what was I talking about?

Speaking of fiddle I had a pancake on the oven...what was I talking about?

I dont' know but.....the pancake was "on the oven"?

I'll be honest, the butt attracts me at first glance. Then I notice everything else. Let's face it, there's a lot of intelligent, witty, funny women out there that most people would never approach because they are not the most attractive girls and most people are truly shallow.

Hey Dkaz, how are ya? Ain't been on in awhile, busy as crap around here lately. No calls so far today, tho, too dang cold outside for people to act goofy.

Hi Coop,

I think about you from time to time. Hoping all is well and safe with you.

So you like butts, do you? I'll keep that in mind. And you're right about the cold. Yesterday morning, here in Central Florida it was 9. I thought I was back in Buffalo when I went out to get the paper. Not seeing snow brought me back to reality.

It's nice to run into again. The best to you and yours in 2010.

Gosh Minnie ... we could be siblings.

I hear ya' on the voice. My S.O. has such a damned deep voice- I can't put my head on his chest while he talks because the vibration drives me nuts. When I play "Proud Mary", he does Ike's voice and I do Tina's- love it! When he talks, people listen- you just can't ignore the rumbling. You know the guy at the rock concert who you can hear whooping it up ten rows back? That's my S.O.

Down side: Cannot whisper- you can hear him 20 feet away. This has caused embarassment more than once as he tells me a secret and half the restaurant hears it, too.

Wow!

Eyes, Blue. Hair, thin and silver (DMV insists it's grey). Build, ummmm, a "shed" over the "tools". "Tools", rusty and unreliable. Voice, whiskey-raspy. Hands, kinda crinckled but once used to deliver calves and babies, perform Colic drains and CPR, and pull bodies out of cars as well as write lies on blogs. Face, unexpressive from what I've gathered. Wife's opinion, I'm an @!$%#. Employees opinion, I'm a nice @!$%#.

I know I'm a catch but after 35 years I'd have to ask my wife's permission first.

Wife's opinion, I'm an @!$%#.

Hey! You must be a relative. My family is full of them.

Just give me a recording of Barry White reciting the phone book and I'm a happy gal.

a UK accent ... from any part ... is a plus too, with that lovely voice.

Intelligence stimulates the biggest sex organ of them all--our BRAINS!

Hey Leticia.....I like that!

Liam has been rumored to be possessed of one of the most impressive copulatory organs in hollywood today .....(no disrespect here). LOVED K-2/Widowmakers and Rob Roy. Mr. Neeson is also (sadly) a widower now having lost his wife tragically last year. But back to sexy men, the crooner Bobby Caldwell (check out Bobby Caldwell.com), he's the guy who wrote and sang "What You Won't Do For Love" along with many other great ballads, has what most women LOVE and that is a voice full of imaginative possiblities. The man sings to you like he MEANS IT. So sometimes - it's the VOICE that does the trick /;-}

ICU - When did you meet my wife. She is past 40ish and still is the prettiest girl in town. Although with my wife, the first thing I saw of her was her butt. When she turned around and I saw the rest of the package, It was definitely love at first sight. (For me anyway, took three yrs to convince her)

When she turned around and I saw the rest of the package, It was definitely love at first sight.

technically, I think that would be second sight.

That's right rick. You loved her butt first.

Dkaz, I can think of "butt first" to mean so many things in so many ways......

I got a very "active" imagination!

Dkaz, I can think of "butt first" to mean so many things in so many ways......

Geez I've had one too many Mojitos Lilith...I had to read that three times before I got your innuendo!

Ahhh, Kimberly. You got my drift! =)

Alright, I stand corrected, But man was it nice and still is

ricksuth - I met my wife in 1984. She was 21 and married at the time. (I was very single.) When we "dated" (cough, cough) our motto was "Well, at least one of us is married!" (Well, it made us giggle! LOL!) (And, for the record, she was going to leave him anyway. LOL!)

I can appreciate that first attraction which caught your eye when you met your wife, though. As much as I love the face, the butt can be quite lovely to look at.

"Butt, butt, butt. . . . I was only looking, dear!" (By the way, that's my wife talking to me. She's very much a "butt" person when it comes to men! LOL!)

Happy New York, Folks. . . and. . . Here's to lookin' at ya!

:)

Oops. . . I meant to say "Happy New YEAR"

LOL!

Lilith,

Dkaz, I can think of "butt first" to mean so many things in so many ways......I got a very "active" imagination!

Like I don't.

ICU,

Happy New York, Folks

Oops. . . I meant to say "Happy New YEAR"

Celebrating a little early, are we?

I love all those attributes also, but if one physical thing was going to get my attention it might be beautiful chocolate brown eyes...there have been times I have noticed the dark eyes.

Just to clarify, the things I listed above, all can be viewed as physical attributes.

If a person is confident, comfortable with their life, has a positive outlook it shows up in their eyes, their smile, facial gestures, the way they walk, stand, through their voice and even the clothes they choose to wear. They are more willing to make eye contact and show a smile, there's no threat or fear, they simply acknowledge another person and greeting. Attraction comes from attitude and is the first impression...

Leticia: I do not know how I landed on this page, and if I, being a married guy, should take the poll, but I would like to give my two cents.

Your topic sounds ok to me from fun or dating perspective. You already have narrowed your question to "physical attribute" but you are still hearing many answers of non-physical attributes. As you know that one thing leads to another, I just wanted to say that when one individual is making a big or long-term decision, one should evaluate the whole package - hardware, software and networking.

One is unlikely to find everything perfect in all categories, but it is so much better to have a balance in all than to go "perfect" in one category for compromising in others. Alas, the physical attributes that so many girls value the most rust much faster :(

Afraid? Confidence in a women is attractive, not something to be feared...

I just wanted to know where the eyes go when you see someone you are visually attracted to

Face overall - from about 6 feet distance view, including head/hair. If that is not attractive enough, not sure how many people will look into further. But if that is attractive enough, I believe most people do not mind not-so-perfect nose, eyes, or lips or anything else.

BTW-the rusting features (as you call them) in alot of men just get better with time and can get even more attractive than when they were younger! ;)

Blushes Blushes! Thanks!

If you ever want to know the truth behind the male Psyche when it comes to women, there's a British television series called Coupling, in Episode 5, that put's a male's view of the appreciation of the female form in perfect perspective. The dinner party scene at the end of the show provides all the details.

Oops according to the American BBC site, it was S1, Episode 4, titled Inferno

The dinner party scene at the end of the show provides all the details.

Hilarious!

excellent link, thanks...funny as all hell

Leticia - response to 20.4. Men are not as confident as they try to make themselves out to be. I was afraid of rejection. I thought a woman that well put together would not be interested in me, the poor country boy I was. But as age and experience came, I learned that the afore mentioned girl was usually the one that did not get asked to the prom because everyone assumed they was already asked, or again, afraid of rejection. So as I matured, that is the type I ended up married to.

Thought you would appreciate the TV episode.
It is truly an inside look into the male psyche, written with humor and honesty.

On a side note:
Being afraid of rejection is being afraid to fail. If a person doesn't try, they already failed. So why fear rejection?

For me and many of my male friends the problem is where to meet the nice eligible women that have a head on their shoulders not just a hair style. - Eharmony online, no thanks, that's giving a private business too much personal information; Meet through friends, sure that works some of the time, but as we get older, our friends get married off and their friends get married off and the pool of their friends diminishes; The work place? Tried that a few times, really did cause interoffice "gossip" issues. What's the solution?

What's the solution?

LOL....Newsvine of course!

Being afraid of rejection is being afraid to fail. If a person doesn't try, they already failed. So why fear rejection?

Ah, but there's the quandry: If past evidence and experience shows that trying always results in failure, then what motivation is there to try? The 'fear' of rejection isn't so much a fear as acknowledging the certainty of that outcome. So, if the outcome is always determined, why try? If the goal is going to arbitrarily move out of my grasp then why bother?

If the goal is going to arbitrarily move out of my grasp then why bother?

because the odds favor those that persist.

There's a very fine line separating 'persistant' and 'stalker', a distinction that's up to the female in the equation, much like the terms of success. I'm not so keen on giving that judgement call to the same person who decided to move the goal posts back about a thousand yards.

I told the story of how my wife and I got together in an article on my column, and a couple of people told me I was borderline stalking her, but they were wrong. I was way over the border. It was definitely stalking. :0)

20.12 'bout sums it up, doesn't it! ;-)

There's a very fine line separating 'persistent' and 'stalker'

Scary to even think that this went from having a discussion on confidence to a discussion about stalking... Just goes to show how people have different experiences and perspectives. Stalking would never have been confused with confidence from my life experiences. Pursuing a woman isn't the same as stalking, it's part of a courting ritual where the women opens the door for advancement, she wants to know you're willing to make efforts, wants to witness what offerings you'll make - a movie, flowers, a promise ring, a home made dinner and foot massage, et. That old phrase, "it takes two to tango" requires that both parties are interested. The queues, the signs, the straightforward statements that a women isn't interested are pretty evident when provided. It's like a woman wearing a wedding ring, the sign is there not to pursue, not to court her, women sometimes wear wedding rings even when they're single, it's a way of saying no...

You're every girls dream...............lol!

But I'm honest. Half of these guys here that are saying that they like a woman's personality or whatever are lying through their teeth. Physical attraction starts the conversation. Personality and intelligence keeps the conversation going. A mental connection leading to love gets the ring on the finger.

Remember the question is what physical attributes FIRST attract you to a woman.

Of course they're lying. We're all lying. But that's what's making this article so much fun. Do you really think the women here look at the peepee first?

Only some of us do. ;-D

Women these days look at the bank account first. lol.

Dryver, not all women do......

Men are not wallets and women are not objects.....

Both are people.....

Do you really think the women here look at the peepee first?

I tried to make women like that happy one time, and walked around with it hanging out, but I was asked to leave, and not return to that particular church.

Dryver,

it seems to go both ways...!

Hey, I'm not going to lie to you. I'd be Roseanne's boy toy for a couple of years to get ahold of some of that loot. Just like there's plenty of bleached blond bimbos willing to do anything for Hugh Heffner's money. It's just the way things are. The law of the land.

Of course they're lying. We're all lying.

I didn't lie. I said the first thing I notice is:

From across the room--- height,
Up Close -- eyes.

I don't really have a particular body type (big boobs, small boobs, etc.) that I find irresistable, other than I don't like tall women or extremely thin skinny women.

I do find a woman with a good sense of humor and a fun personality very attractive. Boobs and butts is also a plus.

CaptainKidd -- we need more men like you! (I'm not flirting; just happy to read your 24.9!!)

(I'm not flirting; just happy to read your 24.9!!)

You didn't have to stipulate.

Women have been not flirting with me all my life.

I can recognize that from a mile away.

That is difficult to believe that you didn't/do get flirted with. Honesty and sincerity are something I can recognize from a mile away [or states away!].

Why thank you, kind lady.

Unfortunately, I was not always the stalwart, gallant specimen of chivalry and respect that is presented before you today.

In my younger days, I was a little less of what I should be, and a bit more of what ladies tend to try to avoid.

Fortunately, Uncle Sam's Military has a way of beating that out of a young man, and leaving most of the good that's in him intact.

Leave it to you to say it with class and integrity! Your divine characteristics were always there, just not at the tip of the iceberg yet! You should be proud you survived the wayward adventures of 20 something! I think you'll always be miles ahead of the pack, imo. Wishing you the best in 2010!

And wishes for health, happiness, fair winds and following seas back to you.

I gotta go make a toast with Magoo.....brb!

Okay....Dryver,

Women these days look at the bank account first. lol.

Oh, like you don't. I heard this is your theme song.

Hey, I'm not going to lie to you. I'd be Roseanne's boy toy for a couple of years to get ahold of some of that loot.

Thank you for revealing your high standards to us..........[laughing]

Captain,

I tried to make women like that happy one time, and walked around with it hanging out, but I was asked to leave, and not return to that particular church.

So did you find another one? If so, what time is the Service?

other than I don't like tall women or extremely thin skinny women.

That's good to know. [jotting down another entry in my book]

I do find a woman with a good sense of humor and a fun personality very attractive. Boobs and butts is also a plus.

[Jotting this one down in case Capt peters out on me.]

[Jotting this one down in case Capt peters out on me.]

That's what got me kicked out of that church

Remember?

Oh yah. I had to scroll up. I forgot.

Alright I'm going to break it down to a song for you. This song illustrates what I like in a woman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4he79krseU

Alright I'm going to break it down to a song for you. This song illustrates what I like in a woman.

I can do better than that. I'm gonna break it down in a picture. This picture illustrates what I like in a man. I prefer black hair, tho.

dkaz - I am afraid, very afraid LOL

Because of what? The ass spanking or where I grabbed you?

Both! I may be old fashion, but that type of physical attention has never been appealing. I guess I am just a more gentle kind of a guy

Yeah, my ole lady has a hair growin out of a mole on her nose, seeeexy

Davoh, I forgot to tell you thank you for the Christmas card you sent with the picture of your wife in it. I bet she's a good cook.

I've tried but she thinks it's ugly. What's her problem? That's my favorite part =)

That's my girl, ain't she cute!

I don't mean to look so hard at your wife-but she makes me feel very HORNey.

LOL, That's good Leticia!

I'm still Hornery from the picture dkaz was so kind to share with us.

I don't mean to look so hard at your wife-but she makes me feel very HORNey

LOL!!!

I'm still Hornery from the picture dkaz was so kind to share with us.

Which one Kimmie, Magoo?

Which one Kimmie, Magoo?

Uhhh, nooo darlin!

she makes me feel very HORNey

Now you know how I feel...

At 28? You better be feeling that. You're Prime USDA Grade meat at that age.

You guys are mean :)

LOL. I'll have to add one more "head" criterion to #1.8: horns are a showstopper. ^_^

Leticia 007

Horns are a bonus!-you can hang your underwear on the hooks while she gives you head.

LMAO!!!

Actually horns can be hawt. I used to play World of Warcraft, and one of the races called draenei have horns, hooves, and tails. Here's a pic of a female draenei. You can't really see the hooves, but that thing below her right hand is her tail. Their butts have the cutest wiggle when they run too!

you can hang your underwear on the hooks while she gives you head

They'd make a nice pair of handlebars, too

This was my character. I had a nice set of......horns.

she danced like a hootchie mama

That's how I pick mine out at the club...

Leticia 007

I used to play WOW I-my character was pretty sexy-she danced like a hootchie mama.

Night elf I'll bet. I had a male NE rogue and male NE huntard. Never really the the hang of either class, but man could they dance. Moves I could only dream of performing.

My main started out life as a female NE druid bank toon camped in Darnassus. After I burned out on the rogue I leveled her up, twinked her a bit, specced resto, and played havoc with the hordies in WSG and AB. Her younger level 19 "sister" (Sunney, far left in this pic) joined Twink Legends and for a while we had a good team running premades. Those guys had game, and when we fielded a premade of five of more, the hordies were toast. With my higher levels I scared up enough gold to pay for a badass spellpower chant on her staff from the one guy on our server who could do it. Your mats plus 150g. It didn't last long , maybe a month or two.

Best part though was the guild leader of Twink Legends. I'm divorced and have no children. Dave ran a construction company in Maine, and he and his kids clicked with me. He was a player and one heckuva dad. He and the missus had three kids, Brandon 7, Gracie 5, and Liam an infant. Brandon ran my 39 through instances to twink her. Dad built Gracie a level 19 twinky hunter and turned her loose in WSG. I did a premade in WSG with her as a healer. I laughed my ass off as Gracie fearlessly picked off the hordies charging to our ramp.

Ah well, I left WoW a few months ago, but there are many fond memories. Auld Lang Syne as we sing in the season. How odd that we sing a mournful song when a new year of hope beckons.

Happy New Year Leticia

rick

Hey, anyone see the TV spots where Mr. T is pitching for World of Warcraft? Too funny!

OK ladies and gay male WoW players -- take trip into a bar somewhere in Stormwind (sorry, you'll have to find it without Cosmos coords :-) where I doubt Mr. T has even been, much less would want to tell you about on the tube.

An adult-only bar where the drinks flow freely, and night elves, humans, and dwarves dance uninhibited to their hearts' content. Ccameos from druids in cat and bear forms.

Six-pack abs and pecs to die for at 1:39.

Happy New year!

LOL....I just spewed coffee all over my monitor and keyboard!

I just spewed coffee all over my monitor and keyboard!

I bet you got one sticky ass computer, lol